4 Easy Ways to Support Your Child Before Their Music Performance

Music performances are an exciting milestone and are an essential part of a well-rounded music education. They offer a chance to build confidence, develop stage presence, and celebrate progress. Parents and caregivers play an important role in creating a positive experience for young musicians, especially in the days leading up to the performance.

In this guide, we offer four simple and supportive ways to help your child feel confident before their music performance.

A quick conversation can ease nerves by making the performance feel more familiar. Understanding what will happen helps children feel ready and confident. You can also build familiarity with a fun run through. Walk them through what performance day looks like, from preparing at home to arriving at the performance space to when they will play and how the audience responds. You might even share something you are excited to hear them play, helping them feel excited too.

💡Quick tip: Practice a mini “run-through” at home, even if it’s for a stuffed animal audience or a family member, to make the real performance feel familiar.

Caregivers naturally want to help, but it's important to note that every teacher prepares students in a slightly different way. Checking in with your child’s teacher ensures that what happens at home supports their lessons without adding confusion or stress. Discuss with their teacher how the days leading up to the performance should be structured, what to focus on during practice, and the best way to provide feedback at home.

💡Quick Tip: Ask their teacher for one or two key ways you can reinforce lessons at home, like specific encouragement or observing practice, to ensure your support aligns with their approach.

Try to keep the day relaxed, and if possible, avoid scheduling too many activities beforehand. Light encouragement and a few kind words can go a long way and help shift the focus toward enjoying music rather than getting everything perfect. Choose performance clothes ahead of time, pack any materials needed, and plan to arrive early to give your child time to settle in.

💡Quick tip: Create a pre-performance routine, whether it’s a few deep breaths, going through a checklist, or even enjoying a favorite snack, to help kids feel grounded.

It can be easy for children to focus on getting everything “right,” but performing is part of the learning process. Gentle reminders about the purpose of performing can help them focus on what truly matters: sharing their music with others, celebrating their growth, and enjoying themselves.

💡Quick tip: Ask your child what part of the piece they are most excited to share, helping them focus on the joy of performing rather than perfection.

Once the performance is over, celebrate the moment! Ask your child what they enjoyed most or what they felt proud of. Whether everything went well or not, your encouragement helps build confidence and a lasting love for music and performing.

Performances are just the beginning. At the Music Institute of Chicago, students can participate in recitals, chamber groups, and masterclasses while exploring new classes and programs designed to strengthen their skills and stage presence. Contact our experienced team to find the ideal teacher for your specific goals.

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